"you don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world, old man,
but you do have some say in who hurts you."
The Fault in Our Stars
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waking up, for me, is like clawing my way through seven hundred layers of reality in a crazy swirling vortex of nothingness and everythingness all at once
this morning, as i was lying in bed, climbing through those last few layers of consciousness, i rolled over to my sister (sometimes we have slumber parties) and said
"girls have relationshops or relationstars. boys have relationsex and relationsnacks."
i still can't figure out what i was really getting at with that theory, but i'm sure it was profound.
"girls have relationshops or relationstars. boys have relationsex and relationsnacks."
i still can't figure out what i was really getting at with that theory, but i'm sure it was profound.
seeing into the future
I work with a 50-something year old woman who ame to work sporting a rough times hair cut.
When I asked her about it, she said
"My husband and I were swimming, and he bet me I wouldn't cut my hair, so I went inside and found the kitchen shears. I mean, he's known me for forty years... he should have known I'd do it."
...I just hope I'm like that in 30 years.
When I asked her about it, she said
"My husband and I were swimming, and he bet me I wouldn't cut my hair, so I went inside and found the kitchen shears. I mean, he's known me for forty years... he should have known I'd do it."
...I just hope I'm like that in 30 years.
when there's nothing left to burn, you have to set yourself on fire
today, i asked my sister how she felt about some boys from her past.
and she said fine, i've moved on to bigger and better.
and i jokingly said, named?
and she laughed and said, named self-respect.
and i.... cried.
because, that's what i've been saying to myself and everyone else for the last 9 months.
you only really ever move on once you've accepted yourself and learned to love who you are, etc etc.
you've heard all this from me before.
but.... lately, i've forgotten.
i've allowed myself to worry about money instead of be proud of my independence.
to let the emptiness of my apartment inspire loneliness instead of freedom.
to constantly worry about calories and wear more makeup than is necessary and feel nauseous whenever i hear the name "shelby."
i'm letting myself slip back into a place of insecurity.
this is a place that i have worked so hard to get out of.
to realize that there's nothing wrong with me. i have flaws, yes. but it wasn't until i saw the good in myself that i could tackle the bad.
and bit by bit, my self-critical, self-loathing side has creeped it's way into the forefront of my mind.
and i've been so unhappy; not because of my current circumstance, but because i stopped working to love myself.
to respect myself.
and my sister not only reminded me of that today, but also showed me how much she's grown.
i'm happy for her to learn the things i've learned. and to apply them.
it's a sucky lesson to learn, but it really, really is the most important one.
and she said fine, i've moved on to bigger and better.
and i jokingly said, named?
and she laughed and said, named self-respect.
and i.... cried.
because, that's what i've been saying to myself and everyone else for the last 9 months.
you only really ever move on once you've accepted yourself and learned to love who you are, etc etc.
you've heard all this from me before.
but.... lately, i've forgotten.
i've allowed myself to worry about money instead of be proud of my independence.
to let the emptiness of my apartment inspire loneliness instead of freedom.
to constantly worry about calories and wear more makeup than is necessary and feel nauseous whenever i hear the name "shelby."
i'm letting myself slip back into a place of insecurity.
this is a place that i have worked so hard to get out of.
to realize that there's nothing wrong with me. i have flaws, yes. but it wasn't until i saw the good in myself that i could tackle the bad.
and bit by bit, my self-critical, self-loathing side has creeped it's way into the forefront of my mind.
and i've been so unhappy; not because of my current circumstance, but because i stopped working to love myself.
to respect myself.
and my sister not only reminded me of that today, but also showed me how much she's grown.
i'm happy for her to learn the things i've learned. and to apply them.
it's a sucky lesson to learn, but it really, really is the most important one.
i have this theory.
this theory that... you have to learn to be single before you can ever be in a working relationship.
because if you go from relationship to relationship, you never learn how to love yourself.
and if you don't know how to love yourself, you don't know how you should be loved.
and you let people go on loving you in all the wrong ways.
and you'll never have a functional, healthy relationship.
you'll always be unhappy.
and you won't know why.
i'll tell you why- it's because you've never learned who you are, what you want or need. you don't know yourself, you don't love yourself. you let people tell you how to feel about yourself because you've never been independent enough to learn it on your own.
and i'm not the only one who feels that way....
Pinterest agrees
Meg agrees
Regina agrees
anyway...
i was just thinking about that today.
this theory that... you have to learn to be single before you can ever be in a working relationship.
because if you go from relationship to relationship, you never learn how to love yourself.
and if you don't know how to love yourself, you don't know how you should be loved.
and you let people go on loving you in all the wrong ways.
and you'll never have a functional, healthy relationship.
you'll always be unhappy.
and you won't know why.
i'll tell you why- it's because you've never learned who you are, what you want or need. you don't know yourself, you don't love yourself. you let people tell you how to feel about yourself because you've never been independent enough to learn it on your own.
and i'm not the only one who feels that way....
Pinterest agrees
Meg agrees
Regina agrees
anyway...
i was just thinking about that today.
why didn't someone tell me this a year ago?
"You are not a terrible person for wanting to break up with someone you
love.
You don’t need a reason to leave.
Wanting to leave is enough.
Leaving doesn’t mean you’re incapable of real love
or that you’ll never love anyone else again.
or that you’ll never love anyone else again.
It doesn’t mean you’re morally bankrupt
or psychologically demented or a nymphomaniac.
or psychologically demented or a nymphomaniac.
It means you wish to change
the terms of one particular relationship.
That’s all. Be brave enough to
break your own heart."
read the whole thing here
it's hilarious, smart, heartbreaking
and uncannily descriptive of my own life
quote of the day
daniel: "i hate it when they say 'k-i-s-s' in a song. it just makes me feel uncomfortable. i'm like, this is inappropriate for my age. i'm only ten years old. i just feel like... it's not for me."
"i love cultured people
that can appreciate non-genius expression
and the love of manipulating
this beautiful mess
that we call english
into a slightly cosmetically challenged
but expressively satisfying
masterpiece."
that can appreciate non-genius expression
and the love of manipulating
this beautiful mess
that we call english
into a slightly cosmetically challenged
but expressively satisfying
masterpiece."
-i received this via text message
from one of my favorite humans
who has recently returned from a
two-year sabbatical leave
in paraguay.
as you can imagine,
i'm ecstatic that he's home.
from one of my favorite humans
who has recently returned from a
two-year sabbatical leave
in paraguay.
as you can imagine,
i'm ecstatic that he's home.
this is how it works
you peer inside yourself
you take the things you like
and try to love the things you took
and then you take that love you made
and stick it into some-
someone else's heart
pumping someone else's blood
and walking arm in arm
you hope it don't get harmed
but even if it does
you'll just do it all again
you peer inside yourself
you take the things you like
and try to love the things you took
and then you take that love you made
and stick it into some-
someone else's heart
pumping someone else's blood
and walking arm in arm
you hope it don't get harmed
but even if it does
you'll just do it all again
quote of the day
scene - dinner at the bearnsons. brecken is eating like a robot.
collin: brecken, will you pass me the butter?
(silence)
collin: brecken.
(silence)
collin: brecken.
(silence)
collin: robot brecken.
brecken: yes?
collin: will you pass me the butter?
(passes the butter)
me: so are you a robot these days?
brecken: (shrugs) it's just something i'm trying out.
collin: brecken, will you pass me the butter?
(silence)
collin: brecken.
(silence)
collin: brecken.
(silence)
collin: robot brecken.
brecken: yes?
collin: will you pass me the butter?
(passes the butter)
me: so are you a robot these days?
brecken: (shrugs) it's just something i'm trying out.
love
"an average of seventy-four species
become extinct every day,
which is one good reason
but not the only one
to hold someone's hand."
-the history of love
i go back and forth on my belief in love.
and i've decided, though i don't care much for it, it exists.
and that keeps me going. it keeps us all going, no?
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